tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post2879129629391587917..comments2023-10-16T05:23:16.002-05:00Comments on mindful of grace: Personality Disorders and the BibleMatthew S. Stanford, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/18195892944044301532noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-62313815537310395472015-11-04T21:44:37.388-06:002015-11-04T21:44:37.388-06:00How is it going Madison?How is it going Madison?Curioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291533380033850723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-88027789537066051382015-08-06T11:48:10.063-05:002015-08-06T11:48:10.063-05:00Seek out professional, caring, secular help. When ...Seek out professional, caring, secular help. When I was having a rough time due to church abuse, Christian counselors were some of the worst ones to consult with. This is because we'll see them as authority figures, on account of their so-called training or credentials, which will often be quite variable in level of professionalism, particularly when personal theological perspectives come into play. As for the faith, that's what the Bible and our brothers and sisters in the Lord are for. I found that separating the two, using both privately, helped immensely in my recovery.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09075435490091771725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-29079376245762150822013-03-05T11:45:59.617-06:002013-03-05T11:45:59.617-06:00I am engaged to a man with BPD. I am also very goo...I am engaged to a man with BPD. I am also very good friends with his ex-wife (they were married very young and remained friends after the divorce, which was caused in part by BPD). She has been a huge blessing in my life, sharing with me his triggers, her experiences, and encouraging me when I think I've had enough. He shares with her that he loves me, and although I wish he would express it to me personally, I appreciate that he says it at all.<br /><br />I am very much in love with him, and we are going to be married next month. I have two children from a previous marriage (a very unhealthy marriage, and although their father is very loving and attentive to them, he is a liar and an addict, and they are quite used to mental illness, unfortunately). My kids love my fiance, and are excited that he will be their step dad. However, they are all too aware of his disorder, his rage (he has NEVER been violent or abusive in ANY way), and his moods.<br /><br />I am wondering if any of you, whether those who suffer from BPD or are loved ones, would be interested in becoming a prayer partner with me for my future husband. He is a new Christian, although he was raised in a Christian home. There is a history of mental illness in his family. When his borderline "flares up", his faith is the first thing to go. He admits that he pushes God away in the same way he pushes me away. <br /><br />Please let me know if you are interested. I would be happy to lift you and your families up in prayer, too. I just feel like I need more support, and more guidance from other sufferers, particularly those who are Christian, since you understand the torment that he goes through.<br /><br />My email is bpd4205 at gmail dot com. I created it specifically for this purpose. <br /><br />Thank you.<br /><br />March 5, 2013 at 11:40 AM<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037358585119683959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-59099196585338179992013-03-05T11:41:56.447-06:002013-03-05T11:41:56.447-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037358585119683959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-13859092287288913152013-02-18T14:17:36.240-06:002013-02-18T14:17:36.240-06:00Your viewpoints on BPD are surely not mainstream, ...Your viewpoints on BPD are surely not mainstream, but I have really enjoyed reading your comment, Broken4Christ! While most people say that there is no hope for various personality disorders other than medication, your experience gives hope that God can and does teach, make new, and deliver. Your personal testimony is very valuable, especially to know that someone with BPD is teachable! You've described some great tools for living with this "illness". Thanks for sharing your insights!Nama8https://www.blogger.com/profile/04425425176375839025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-87000826936733729652012-01-13T19:11:58.447-06:002012-01-13T19:11:58.447-06:00I have BPD. I'm 31 years old, married with a d...I have BPD. I'm 31 years old, married with a daughter and step-son. I am also a Follower of Christ. I was diagnosed with BPD when I was a teen. I was suicidal and self-destructive. I had a very hard time distinguishing reality from my own abnormal thought processes. It seemed as though I could only think in black and white...and always in extremes. I was on meds for a while, but i haven't been for years now. I believe that through Christ, I can live a very successful life without the help of medication. I do still have my moments where something triggers me, and emotionally, I collapse. I have intense moments of rage, followed by severe depression and hopelessness. But if I honestly look at what's happening in those times, for me, I can see that I am giving myself over to the power of sinful thinking. Instead of taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, I find that I easily let my mind sink into the pit of despair with the ungodly thoughts. Do I see this as a disorder? Yes, it's a sin disorder. A very severe one, brought on by years and years of improper thought patterns, strongholds, and mentalities. But I do hold on to the hope I have in Christ. I am not a victim of this "illness." I am not its slave. Through Him, I have freedom, and I have been set free from the power of sin and death.Broken4Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389208693540376318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-75472553980026826122010-04-19T03:42:03.905-05:002010-04-19T03:42:03.905-05:00Personality disorder is a type of psychological di...Personality disorder is a type of psychological disorder. There are many negative effects of personality disorder. It affects badly to a person's life, family and social life. People with personality disorder have conflicts with many other people. There are many types of personality disorders like Paranoid personality disorder, Schizoid personality disorder, Dissocial personality disorder etc. People with this disorder have negative attitude, instability in relationships, loves breaking rules and regulations, mistrust for others etc. For more details refer <a href="http://www.disorderscentral.com/personality-disorders.html" rel="nofollow">personality disorders</a>Poojahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07927598655469081524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4337429493564424588.post-32222360630527787282010-01-04T00:55:40.814-06:002010-01-04T00:55:40.814-06:00I am a man with BPD. I am married (to the same wif...I am a man with BPD. I am married (to the same wife!) and have 4 grown children. What can you tell me or guide me to help with the hell I go through every day?<br /><br />I have been to about 7 Christian counselors/psychiatrists in the last 24 or so years. In the end I got put down, abandoned, or condemned by most of them. I've gotten better over the years, but, it is still a struggle everyday. <br /><br />Maybe because I'm high functioning they think I'm exaggerating or lying. Needless to say, I'm apprehensive about seeing another Christian. But I can't live like this. I need help. Any thoughts?sirsamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01165046089406036133noreply@blogger.com